Can romance and science find happiness with each other?
As it turns out, yes. And the results are comforting for those who have been married for years and who may fear that the old spark will soon not be glowing as brightly as it used to.
Couples who have been in love for two decades or more turn out to have activity in an area of the brain normally associated with those in the red-hot early days of a relationship.
Only better. A study showed those in long-term relationships tend to have brain activity that reflects calm, while the couples who are new to each other tend to have brain activity that reflects obsession and anxiety. Not such appealing emotions in the normal course of events.
So, the brain waves are on the side of the relationship veterans.
Not that the vets don't have to work on their relationships. They do.
And that goes for their lives as a whole, including their intimate moments.
Intimacy is important, in every way.
When it comes to physical intimacy, things may change over the years. Bodies change, health changes, medications get to be bigger parts of many lives. Couples should talk to each other about those things.
Moreover, being good to yourself is a big factor. Eat right, get exercise, don't smoke, keep a positive outlook on life.
You follow those suggestions, and there may well be a payoff for you in a part of your lives that only the two of you know about.
How to Light the Flame Again
- Forgive each other for actions that took place in the past.
- Act like kids. Ride a swing, give your mate a push.
- Be kind.
- Hugs, give your partner lots of them.
- Plan leisure time with each other, write down your ideas for doing things together.
- Get in touch with your mate's family and see if there are things they always wanted to do. And then do one of them.
- Remember the old song, "Love Letters in the Sand?" You might not have time for an entire letter, but you could draw a heart.
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